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4W5/5W4 relations Another 4w5? INFP most likely so he Relationship focused INFPs are a bit too much in the long run for INTPs I guess. Type 5 is a Mind type, Type 4 is Heart type. Mind types predominately deal with Fear, while Heart types predominately deal with Sadness and. If you think of the relationship of Harry Potter and Severus Snape you would 4w5 wing or 5w4 wings—they can give the impression of having.
Need for Attention Meets Need to Understand the Human Condition This is my take on it, but I think why these types often pair is because opposites attract. Not only that but because their wings are on both sides of this type. Both types can be introverted for the most part, they fall in line with more intellectual conversations.
Remember, Fives love knowledge. So add a 4w5 wing, and you can see both discovering something unique and fun about the other.
Enneagram Relationships: The Nonconformist and Theorist
Both types also can have a fetish or interesting hobbies or likes—which can be more on the underground or creative side of things.
This works well with Fives who tend to separate their friends and lovers, depending on what secrets they want to reveal or not.
This was also one of the draws to Bella regarding Edward? The Five loves to understand why Edward was so different from the others—a puzzle, that must be explored.
This couple is inclined to find common ground in their wings types. Emotional Cautions This couple also has a tendency to crash and burn. The downside to this type is also the very thing that attracts them—emotion and intellect. Fives are known for not giving the Four what they need—emotions. Feelings are frowned upon by Theorist, who must process the events of discourse. Nonconformist are emotional, they need to understand where you are coming from, do you really love them, or understand them and they want to know now!
Both seek understanding-- 4 seeks to understand themself, and 5 seeks to understand the world around them. But these different types of understanding give them very different roles in the world; roles that could complement each other or clash.
Problems arise when the 4 is unhealthy or in conflict: The 5 pulling away will reinforce the 4's "what's wrong with me? These situations can be easily fixed.
Likewise, the 4 may get mad at the 5 and call them a "robot" or "inhuman", which the 5 may take offense to. If they view each other as "equal but opposite" things will go much more smoothly.
Relationships (Type Combinations) — The Enneagram Institute
Telling a 4 to stop being so sensitive is like telling a 7 to stop having fun. Sometimes, a frustrated 5 may even provoke the 4 to try and "toughen them up" a bit The 4 will usually seek them out first, which the 5 may secretly be grateful for.Love & Enneagram - Type 5
Unhealthy 4's have a "push-pull" pattern, especially 4w5s, but since 5's are usually so distant, the 4 will usually stay with the "push" role, and the 5 the "pull.