Joking aside, I'd recommend starting with something that kind of outlines the core . Submission - Also totally not the woman in a Taken in Hand relationship. A Taken In Hand relationship is a wholehearted sexually exclusive marriage in which .. So many logical fallacies, I hardly know where to start. Dec 7, Curious if any ladies are in a Taken in Hand relationship. - Moms With Also did the spankings start before or after you were married? How did.
The Modern Male-Led Relationship
Internal Enslavement - Not worth defining. Probably because it will sound too much like Taken in Hand. Micromanagement - The husband taking control of even the smallest decisions the wife makes. Some wives like this, and some don't. Masochism - Masochism is the psychological tendency to derive pleasure, often including sexual pleasure, from emotional or physical pain. Taken in Hand will proceed to describe it at length in flowery, language and great poetic detail, but it doesn't apply to them, dammit.
OTK - Pulling your wife Over The Knee to spank her, rather than, as the title of the site would suggest, over the hand. Service kink - According to some author somewhere, it's something that a woman might actually have a say in. Get it away from us!
Unconventional Woman: Taken In Hand And The Alpha Male
Slave - Totally not the woman in a Taken in Hand relationship. Submission - Also totally not the woman in a Taken in Hand relationship.
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A form of BDSM where one partner gives absolute control of the relationship to the other partner. I mean, it's not Oh, fuck it, even Taken in Hand admits that this is Taken in Hand by another name.
When the alpha male is at his angriest he doesn't shout or raise his voice, his voice actually becomes quieter, a very deadly whisper. There's no need for him to shout in anger because his intent gets across in his demeanor. He's very intimidating when he wants to be with just a look or word. Yet he's playful and gentle with those he considers his.
The alpha male is elusive and in my opinion an endangered species. However, while implementing this essential movement we began an unconscious anti male movement.
Instead of saying "if I choose to order my meal and pay for it myself, that should be acceptable to men and society as a whole" we said "it is not ok for men to order for us and pay for things since they are not our masters and we can do it ourselves".
Instead of saying "if I want to pursue a career that should be a welcome and supported effort" we say "I will earn my due and suggesting otherwise is a sexist attitude. Of course in the current social climate his desire to care for his woman is seen as possessive, unenlightened, and most undesirable. The alpha male must go into hiding or put on a mask so as not to incur the wrath of society in general. I say all this because "tih" relationships tend to attract alpha males.
Being able to flex their masculinity freely and with a partner willing to yield is attractive. The dance of dominance and submission will always attract an alpha male.
The Modern Male-Led Relationship - The Head of Household
A "tih" is a simple conflict resolution structure. Since there is a dominant partner the final decisions fall to them. They have an ultimate yea or nay power.
Of course this element is what is undesirable to most. People don't like the idea that someone has ultimate say in their life.
But what must be understood it that the dominant partner must act in the best interest of the relationship. Similar to the president, he can veto a law but if the people he governs disagree enough with how he's leading he won't be reelected or worse can be impeached. It's the same with "tih", if the dominant partner acts selfishly or consistently ignores the needs of the submissive partner that is the end of that relationship.
The other safe guard is held by the submissive partner. A willingly submissive partner does not submit to anyone. You do not blindly relinquish certain power to someone you don't know, or someone you know will abuse that power.
Just like you wouldn't give your power of attorney to a stranger or cousin Jim the gambler. Yielding of will is a gift that should not be given or received lightly. Many "tih" couples say their fights are almost nonexistent.
They are easily ended by the dominant partner. One couple I know used to argue about how to spend Saturday evenings. There was always something one wanted to do the other didn't and they'd fight and up with her mad and him gone and no one had a good time, and they'd be in a fight till mid week.
When they became a "tih" couple the ultimate say came down to him.