What is Imago Relationship Therapy? - Imago Professional Site
Imago Relationship Therapy: Workshops and sessions for couples by Kobus van der Merwe. Imago relationship therapy is a form of couples counseling and coaching that helps those in committed relationships work out their misunderstandings, reduce . Imago relationship therapy is a form of marriage therapy that takes a relationship approach rather than an individual approach to problem solving in a marriage.
You take responsibility for communicating your needs and desires to your partner. In an unconscious marriage, you cling to the childhood belief that your partner automatically intuitively knows and understands your needs.
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In a conscious marriage, you accept the fact that, in order to understand each other, you have to develop clear channels of communication. You become more intentional in your interactions. In an unconscious marriage, you tend to react without thinking. You allow the primitive response of your old brain to control your behaviour. In a conscious marriage, you train yourself to behave in a more constructive manner. You embrace the dark side of your personality. In a conscious marriage, you openly acknowledge the fact that you, like everyone else, has negative traits, As you accept responsibility for this dark side of your nature, you lessen your tendency to project your negative traits onto you mate, which creates a less hostile environment.What is Imago Therapy?
Once you develop strengths and abilities that you previously thought you lacked, you can be a whole person, which benefits you and your partner. Being with your partner gave you an illusory sense of wholeness. In a conscious marriage, you learn that the only way you can truly recapture a sense of oneness is to develop the hidden traits within. During the Imago course, you will learn to become more aware of your drive to be loving, whole and united with the universe.
As a part of your God-given nature, you have the ability to love unconditionally and to experience unity with the world around you.
We were born whole and complete. We became wounded during the early nurturing and socializing stages of development by our primary caretakers usually inadvertently. We have a composite image of all the positive and negative traits of our primary care takers deep in our unconscious mind. It is like a blue print of the one we need to be our partner in a committed intimate relationship.
This is important because we marry or commit for the purpose of healing and finishing the unfinished business of childhood. Our parents are the ones who wounded us and it is they who could help us heal.
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A primary love partner who matches their traits is their stand-in. We move into a power struggle as soon as we make a commitment to this person. The first two stages of marriage, "romantic love" and the "power struggle," are engaged in at an unconscious level. Our unconscious mind chose our partner for the purpose of healing childhood wounds. Inevitably our love partner is incompatible with us and least able to meet our needs and most able to wound us all over again.
- What is Imago Relationship Therapy?
- Healing and Repair through connection and dialogue.
The goal of Imago Relationship Therapy is to align our conscious mind which wants happiness and good feelings with the agenda of the unconscious mind which wants healing and growth. Thus, the goal of therapy is to assist clients in developing conscious, intimate, committed relationships.
This transition cannot take place through insight alone. Specific skills and processes are necessary that need to be practiced daily to shift us from having an unconscious marriage or relationship to a conscious marriage or relationship.
It takes two to five years of regular work although not necessarily therapy, to develop a conscious marriage, which will bring you the relationship you deserve, that is, one with safety and passion.